Be theONE... be the Man
A woman can not respect a man whom she has to mother. If she has to keep probing him to step up and lead, to stand up and be the man, something will die.
The sexual tension will dry up.
People have been gaslighting women that, ‘She became difficult when she got money. Now that she’s successful, she can’t submit.’
But the problem is usually that the man became comfortable and the woman passed him by in growth.
People want to marry a strong woman because she brings strong support, but they forget that a strong woman is also proactive.
She won’t just sit there and watch the family get into problems. She will step in and fill the gap.
She does this as a helper, not a replacement for the man. She is simply relieving him so that he can reorganize himself.
But if he gets comfortable and falls back, the whole dynamic changes.
Marrying a strong woman keeps you under some kind of positive pressure to keep moving.
She craves new challenges and conquering of new territories. You can’t just sit with her behind you.
Sometimes, when you hear people say they want a hard-working woman, it’s because they don’t plan on working hard themselves.
The most painful thing for a strong woman is to marry a settled man. One who can’t keep jobs or step up to the challenge of providing for and protecting his family.
Fifty-fifty sharing of financial responsibilities turns a woman into her masculine energy. And so do all other arrangements that give her mandatory quota or financial responsibilities.
The primary duty of a wife is to nurture and care for her husband and her household. To do this, she needs to feel relaxed and supported.
Even when she’s working and chipping in financially, she doesn’t do it under obligation or pressure.
In short, every marriage needs a man. When the man can not be the man, the woman has to become the man.
If you let this happen as a man, you’ll lose all your privileges as a man because you’re no longer the man.
If she has to mother you, she can’t also sleep with you. It’ll feel wrong.
If you’re just a big son she adopted rather than the man who takes charge, then she’ll have to manage you, and she’ll do it with contempt because she’ll also be frustrated with the role you’re casting her into.
You don’t marry a strong woman to settle and sleep mentally. You marry her to embark on a journey and evolve with her supporting you.
A woman can not respect a man whom she has to mother. If she has to keep probing him to step up and lead his role, to stand up and be the man, something will die.
The sexual tension and allure will dry up.
People have been gaslighting women that, ‘She became difficult when she got money or wasn’t supported. Now that she’s successful or not aftaid to say, she can’t submit.’
But the problem is usually that the man became comfortable or neglectful and the woman passed him by in growth.
People want to marry a strong woman because she brings strong support, but they forget that a strong woman is also proactive. Also craves connection.
She won’t just sit there and watch the family get into problems. She will step in and fill the gaps or illuminate to resolve issue.
She does this as a helper, not a replacement for the man. She is simply relieving him so that he can reorganize and own himself.
But if he gets comfortable and falls back, the whole dynamic changes.
Marrying a strong woman keeps you under some kind of positive pressure to keep moving. To grow.
She craves new challenges and conquering of new territories. You can’t just sit with her behind you.
Sometimes, when you hear people say they want a hard-working woman, it’s because they don’t plan on working hard themselves. Or they don’t understand work.
The most painful thing for a strong woman is to marry a settled man. One who can’t keep jobs or step up to the challenge of providing for and protecting his family. Supporting the dynamic.
Fifty-fifty or more sharing of financial responsibilities turns a woman into her masculine energy. And so do all other arrangements that give her mandatory quota or financial responsibilities.
The primary “duty” and drive of a wife is to nurture and care for her husband and her household. To do this, she needs to feel relaxed and supported.
Even when she’s working and chipping in financially, she doesn’t do it under obligation or pressure. She does it out of love.
In short, every marriage needs a man. When the man can not be the man, the woman has to become the man.
If you let this happen as a man, you’ll lose all your privileges as a man because you’re no longer the man.
If she has to mother you, she can’t also sleep with you. It’ll feel wrong.
If you’re just a big son she adopted rather than the man who takes charge… takes care of her as she does you, then she’ll have to manage you, and she’ll do it with contempt or lack luster because she’ll also be frustrated and overwhelmed with the role you’re casting her into.
You don’t marry a strong woman to settle and sleep mentally. You marry her to embark on a journey and evolve with her supporting you.
It’s not sexy or appealing for her to always have to mother her man. Support and care for is different than mothering . Once the kids are grown and leading themselves… she still wants to support her man and her children. By being a cheerleader and mother. Just not her man’s mother!
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